On Turning Older + Wanting More

Alex, what are you going to do on your birthday?

If I had a dollar for every time I got this question and its variations in the days leading to my birthday, I wouldn’t have to work after this pandemic. For the first time in years, I do not feel any anxiety or have the need to dissect my life and point out all the things I could be doing better at this age. It helps that everything is slow-paced at the moment.

Growing up, I had a clear image of what I wanted life to look like in my mid-twenties, being married and having my first child were top two on my list. Now I’m just trying to make it past the daily hurdles of adulting and the challenges that come with living as a woman in Lagos, Nigeria. My 12-year-old self would never have thought curtains would be so damn expensive and ‘ashewo’ would cease to have its intended effect on many Nigerian women.

The most important thing growing older (and hopefully, wiser) has taught me is, never be afraid to fail. Last year, I decided 2020 would be my gap year, the year I take a little break from my career projections and channel my energy into trying out all the other things that make me happy. I started building a lifestyle company with two of my favorite women and I’m excited for the things we’ll do with it in the nearest future.

If there’s anything this COVID-19 pandemic has made clearer, it’s the importance of focusing on the things that bring me joy instead of dwelling on the minor irregularities that do not matter in the grand scheme of things. In no particular order, here are the five things I want more of going forward:

  1. To earn more. I know I possess skills that can help me earn more than I currently do but laziness and unnecessary sentiments keep holding me back. That is going to change.
  2. To love more. If you read my 2019 Review post, you already know I was open to new relationships for a very brief period last year. Unfortunately, I clammed up. Now I feel like I’m ready to try again. To love more. In friendships and relationships.
  3. To travel more. I like the look of surprise on people’s faces whenever I tell them I’m only interested in seeing African countries at this point in my life, it’s priceless. I’m finally going to prioritize my cross-country travel after I tick Cape Verde off my list.
  4. To give more. I love the feeling I get when I give. I think it does more for me than the recipients of my kindness so I’m going to focus on giving more of my time and resources.
  5. To be more active in my friendships. I often feel like I do the barest minimum in my friendships. My friends aren’t complaining but I know I need to do better. And I will.

Cheers to growing older and saving money on celebrations because everyone has to stay indoors.

 

Love,

Alex.

 

2019: What A Year

Every year I try to post a recap of the highs and lows. I love how it affords me the opportunity to critically analyze my entire year, there are some events I would leave out due to personal reasons. Without further ado, here are the good, bad and ugly for 2019:

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Hair Porosity 101

When I started my natural hair journey, porosity was one of the first things I stumbled upon then shelved away thinking it was not-so-important. I was re-introduced to it at NaijaHairCanGrow’s 2014 Salon Day Out  and it made a big difference in the way I cared for my hair after. If you’re struggling with dry hair or wondering why your hair doesn’t retain moisture, you’ll want to stick around and get to the end of this post.

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Hello 2018 | 5 Unconventional New Year Resolutions

Happy New Year !!!

If you read my 2017 Review post, you would know that I had a pretty good year and I have so many expectations for 2018, the only way from here on is up! I sat to write my regular New Year’s resolution for 2018 that featured appearances from my favorites; lose weight, save more, e.t.c. After thinking for a while, I was able to narrow my list to these unconventional goals excluding my main goals and decided to share. Continue reading “Hello 2018 | 5 Unconventional New Year Resolutions”

WIN ONE MILLION NAIRA IN SHEA MOISTURE’S YOUNG SOFI TUCKER COMPETITION

If you’re a natural hair enthusiast, the brand Shea Moisture is no stranger to you. When the recession started, Shea Moisture was the first brand I dropped because there was just no way it could fit into my budget at the time. They’ll be relaunching in Nigeria again and the Young Sofi Tucker competition is one of the numerous ways they’ll be trying to give back to society and empower young female entrepreneurs in Nigeria. Read details on how you can participate and win below. Continue reading “WIN ONE MILLION NAIRA IN SHEA MOISTURE’S YOUNG SOFI TUCKER COMPETITION”

 6 Struggles Only Girls With 4C Hair Would Understand 

When I chopped off all my relaxed ends, hair-typing was one of the things I found totally unnecessary until I tried certain styles and products that my 3A YouTube sisters were raving about but was an epic fail for me. After extensive research, I finally concluded that I have  4C hair even though I wanted 4A hair with all those baby curls. Don’t know your hair type or not sure what all I just wrote means? Check How to Know Your Hair Type

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My Top 5 Leave-in Conditioners For Natural Hair

While writing this post, I realized that all the products are under 5000 Naira ($10), it got me wondering why people are always complaining that “having natural hair is expensive”. Once you find the right products for your hair, you really do not have to break the bank to maintain healthy hair. These products are my absolute favorites that have been of great help on my natural hair journey and I’ve gone through at least 2 tubs/bottles of each. I use the Liquid – Cream – Oil (LCO) method to moisturize my hair and Leave-in conditioners are the creams I use. So far, these are my favorites: Continue reading “My Top 5 Leave-in Conditioners For Natural Hair”

Beauty Gallery: The Hair & Makeup Store

I often get questions regarding where to purchase hair care and beauty products and although the directory has a list of salons and stores, I decided to put the spotlight on BeautyGallery. I love that you can place  orders online and get it within 24 hours. This store retails some of my favorite hair care brands like Shea Moisture and Creme of Nature, they also stock makeup &skin care products, hair extensions and weaves ( I got this from them). Continue reading “Beauty Gallery: The Hair & Makeup Store”